Neurodiversity and the Politics of Self-Control

My son and I are intense. We’re passionate people. We feel profoundly, we experience deeply, and we get really excited about some things.


I hate small talk. I often find it painfully boring and, frankly, a waste of time. I understand there is a social aspect to exchanging pleasantries and being friendly, but small talk is not friendly to me, it usually feels artificial and performative.

I love deep conversations. I really enjoy intellectual discussion and debate. I can recall many occasions where I was debating an interesting topic with others and people reacted as though I were becoming “too” passionate. I wasn’t angry or getting upset, I was genuinely and enthusiastically enjoying the exchange.

Emotional intelligence is touted as an important skill for all to have. In its genuine form, absolutely, it is adaptive to be able to regulate one’s own emotions. Unfortunately, the mainstream propaganda around emotional intelligence is nothing more than monetizing the concept of self-control.

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Published by Jillian ADHD 2e MB

Jillian has Child and Youth Work diploma as well as a BA in Psychology. Jillian worked on the front lines of Social Services agencies from 2003 - 2012. Jillian has taken numerous continuing education courses and has attended various workshops focused on supporting neurodiverse children, in particular children with ADHD.

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