If your child’s school repeatedly calls you about behaviour problems, here’s what you can do about it.
We frequently see posts in ADHD/parenting groups with caregivers desperately asking “The school keeps calling about my child, what can I do?!”
Given that children are at school 30+ hours per week, usually without their parent(s) present… the question we should be asking is what can WE (as a parent-school-child TEAM) do. Parent and caregivers can’t do much from work or home while their child is at school, and children with ADHD often have difficulty connecting actions to consequences.
This is particularly difficult for any child when the actions happen at school and the school expects consequences/conversations and solutions/problem-solving to happen at home.
This is usually ineffective and an exercise in frustration for the parent. When this happens frequently it can create shame and low self-esteem in the child as they start to internalize the message “I keep messing up, but I don’t know how to do better, maybe I’m just a ‘bad’ kid.”
The message we want to send is:
“You’re a fantastic kid and we are going to be here with you and help you with this challenge.”
Read my article on Age of Awareness.