The definition of “success” in these programs is compliance.
Do we really want compliance and obedience to be our primary goals when it comes to supporting our children?
I’m going with a hard no on this one, and I’ll tell you why.
Behaviours are external manifestations of the child’s inner experiences. To ignore the behaviour is to ignore the child’s feelings.
Co-regulation is what happens when children lose their cool and we maintain our composure. We create a safe and caring environment for the child to work through their feelings.
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