Children Are Not Mini Adults

Stop comparing apples to oranges

Some try to justify the use of punishment and rewards to gain compliance from children by claiming that we do the same to adults. “We wouldn’t go to work if our employer stopped paying us” they say.

Well, sure. We chose to go to work. We applied for the job, attended the interview, curated professional references, then showed up on the first day for training. We signed a contract agreeing on the terms of employment, responsibilities, and compensation for the job.

Children don’t sign up for our agendas and they haven’t willingly entered into an agreement. We lovingly brought them into our lives, and it’s unfair to expect children to share our priorities.

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Jillian has Child and Youth Work diploma as well as a BA in Psychology. Jillian worked on the front lines of Social Services agencies from 2003 - 2012. Jillian has taken numerous continuing education courses and has attended various workshops focused on supporting neurodiverse children, in particular children with ADHD.

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