Writing for Love and Money

An opportunity to pursue my passion and share my knowledge.

I’ve always loved writing yet I’ve never considered myself a very creative person. I am good at technical writing, but I don’t paint pictures with words the way some very talented writers do.

I’ve come to learn that I can write to my strengths and interests, and I don’t have to be a top writer to make a difference in the lives of others — and hopefully make a few dollars in the process, of course.

Continue reading on The Writing Cooperative.

November Call for Submissions

Our November writing prompt:

Write about how different you were five or 10 years ago, as compared to now.

This can be in the form of:

  • Writing a letter to your younger self.
  • Writing a letter to a significant person in your life, describing how you’ve changed.
  • Thanking someone who was instrumental in positive changes in your life.
  • A description of what has worked for you to make positive changes in your life, with gentle suggestions or advice for others who may share similar experiences.
  • Something completely different!

The focus of Neurodiversified is informative and well-written articles about ADHD, twice exceptionality, neurodiversity, parenting, advocacy, mental health, and education.

If you do not wish to respond to the above prompt, please feel free to submit a different story draft that follows our submission guidelines.

Continue reading on Neurodiversified.

I Survived Years of Relentless Bullying

If a child tells you they are being bullied:

  • Believe the child and take them seriously.
  • Listen and provide a safe space for the child to talk.
  • Let them know it’s not their fault, you’re sorry this is happening, and that you will help them.
  • Tell them you care about them, they do not deserve this, and that it is not okay for someone to treat them this way.
  • Advocate for the child and get them help immediately.

Read my article on Age of Awareness.

ADHD is a Significant Risk Factor for PTSD

And not surprisingly, ADHD + PTSD can lead to addiction.

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that’s triggered by a terrifying event. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.

Complex PTSD (c-PTSD) is caused by ongoing trauma, or trauma that was previously ongoing for months or years, often in childhood.

I will not directly discuss any traumatic events, but reading about PTSD or c-PTSD can be triggering in itself. It is difficult just writing about the topic, even from an over-intellectualizing distance without getting into specifics.

Please practice good self-care and do not read if you feel the content may do you more harm than good.

As always, my articles are intended to be informative and supportive, but are not intended as individual mental health advice, and cannot replace the advice of a medical professional.

Continue reading on Invisible Illness.

I’m Not Listening!

APD has various distinct categories:

  • Auditory closure: Difficulty filling in the gaps of speech when it is more challenging.
  • Dichotic listening: Difficulty understanding competing, meaningful speech that happens at the same time.
  • Temporal processing: Recognizing differences in speech sounds, and understand pitch & intonation.
  • Binaural interaction: This is the ability to know which side speech or sounds are coming from, and to localize sound in a room.
  • Phonetic decoding: An inability to process language at natural language speed.
  • Auditory integration: A delay in integrating things heard with things seen.
  • Auditory hypersensitivity: Low tolerance for noise. Difficulty focusing on the important sounds in a noisy setting.

Give people the benefit of the doubt, especially children who usually don’t have adequate insight into their own neurology to understand what is happening, let alone explain it to an adult.

Continue reading on Neurodiversified.

Neurodiversity Is Not A Group of People

Neurodiversity is a political movement, a philosophy, and a personal framework.
I made a rookie mistake.

I don’t use reddit, but recently discovered r/ADHD, and tried to post there without first reading the community rules and guidelines. I made a short, simple post introducing myself as a fellow neurodivergent, which was flagged by the moderator bot.

Neurodivergent suffering is primarily (although likely not totally) a product of societal exclusion and marginalization.”

– Robert Chapman

Neurodiversity is necessary for a sustainable, flourishing human society.”

– Judy Singer

“…the pathology paradigm divides the spectrum of human cognitive performance into “normal” and “other than normal,” with “normal” implicitly privileged as the superior and desirable state.”

– Dr. Nick Walker

“…this pathology paradigm consistently resulted in autistics being stigmatized, misrepresented, dehumanized, abused, harmed, and traumatized by professionals and by their own families.”

– Dr. Nick Walker

“…social institutions enhance specific patterns of thought, feeling, and behaviour by providing a normative framework that rewards, reinforces, or discourages particular kinds of ways of thinking and behaving.”

– Michelle Maiese

Society’s normative expectations define our differences, and potentially cause further psychological ‘disability’ via a culture and ideology of ‘normalcy’.”

– Damian Milton

Read my article on Fourth Wave.

ADHD Qualities of Successful Entrepreneurs

Research shows us where ADHD and successful entrepreneurship overlap.

I’ve been a successful entrepreneur for more than 11 years and only found out in October 2019 that I have ADHD.

“Know yourself, honestly evaluate your strengths and weaknesses, then work to your strengths. Find ways to either improve upon, work around, accommodate, or outsource your areas of weaknesses wherever possible.”

Read my article in Illumination.

Defining ADHD Paralysis

It’s totally a thing, but not actually a thing…

I used to think that I was supposed to complete tasks in a certain way, like the way neurotypicals do, I guess.

Don’t try to force yourself to be neurotypical if you’re not. Find adaptations for the differences that cause you grief — while embracing the fact that your brain works in a unique way.

Continue reading on Preoccupy Negative Thoughts.

ADHD: The Gift That STILL Keeps On Giving

Comorbid Conditions Continued

A Brief Recap

previously wrote about the most common co-occurring conditions with ADHD, which are anxiety, depression, bipolar, addictions, and borderline personality (BPD).

Anxiety disorders are the most prevalent groups of comorbidities in people with ADHD, most commonly social anxiety, generalized anxiety, and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD).

Depression and Bipolar disorder (BD) are also highly comorbid with ADHD. Clinicians must be cognizant of cultural and methodological differences across continents when differentiating between these diagnoses, to prevent misdiagnosis, and to provide optimal care for both ADHD and BD.

ADHD, especially untreated ADHD, is a very strong risk factor for substance abuse and substance use disorders, something I’ve written about previously.

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is thought to be the most prevalent personality disorder amongst people with ADHD, which is something that significantly impacted my own experience with seeking support, diagnosis, and treatment. (I wrote a separate piece on this as well).

You can read the full article on comorbidities here.

But wait, there’s more!

I will cover four more disorders and neurotypes that very commonly co-occur with ADHD:

  1. Learning and Writing Disabilities
  2. Sensory Processing Disorder
  3. Sleep Disorders
  4. Autism

Read my latest article on Invisible Illness.

Help With Challenging Behaviours

In this case challenging is an adverb, not a verb. We’re not challenging the kids, even though their behaviour is sometimes challenging.

What NEED is the behaviour meeting for that child?

“ADHD is a deficit of regulation, not a deficit of knowledge.”

– Dr. Russell Barkley

“Instead of viewing behaviours purely as difficulties we need to get rid of, it’s helpful to see them as forming an instructional manual for how to support each child.”

– Dr. Mona Delahooke

“A child who seems to be misbehaving is, in the process, adapting and surviving”

– Dr. Mona Delahooke

When we punish behaviours that stem from the child’s divergent neurology, we are essentially punishing a child for having a disability.

Even worse, when we punish behaviours that stem from the child’s divergent neurology, and we haven’t appropriately supported or accommodated their needs, we are essentially punishing a child for having a disability that has been ignored.

The goal is connection, not compliance.

“If caregivers are focused only on modifying behaviour, then all they’re modifying is the signal. But they’re not solving any of the problems that are causing the signal.”

– Dr. Ross Greene

“Behaviorally challenging kids are challenging because they’re lacking the skills to not be challenging.”

– Dr. Ross Greene

Read our article on Neurodiversified.

Learn more about Dr. Ross Greene’s Collaborative & Proactive Problem Solving approach.