Why I’m Okay With My Son Calling Me Out

No, he does not get into trouble for calling me on my hypocrisy We don’t need to teach children to answer questions, we need to teach children to question the answers.  “That’s the thing about independently minded children. You bring them up teaching them to question authority, and you forget that the very first authorityContinue reading “Why I’m Okay With My Son Calling Me Out”

Emotion in Motion

A series of my stories about emotions and emotion regulation Stories About Emotions A few days ago I wrote a flurry of stories about emotional dysregulation and co-regulation, which has prompted me to compile my related stories to make them easier to find. Interoception and emotion regulation The first one I wrote back in November. ThisContinue reading “Emotion in Motion”

Exploring Emotional Regulation 

Co-regulation is essential for any relationship, especially the parent-child relationship.  We all become dysregulated sometimes. This happens when the demands of the environment exceed our ability to deal with them in a calm, skillful manner at that moment in time. When someone we love is upset, there are essentially three different responses we can give them. 1)Continue reading “Exploring Emotional Regulation “

My Top Performing Articles of 2021

I’ve been on medium for eight months, and it’s been quite a ride so far. I have really enjoyed writing here and reading stories and articles shared by others. To date, I’ve published 175 articles. Recently I’ve made it to 1.5K followers, and have reached more than 50K readers, which is very exciting for me.Continue reading “My Top Performing Articles of 2021”

My Anti-Behaviourism Series

My stories explaining the many problems with behaviourism, backed by extensive research Dear readers, I have a(nother) confession to make: Once upon a time, I was a behaviourist. I was a professional dog trainer for 11 years. While I was a positive, fear free certified trainer, I was still a behaviourist. Fast forward to 2019,Continue reading “My Anti-Behaviourism Series”

Stop Recommending Behavioural Therapies

The definition of “success” in these programs is compliance. Do we really want compliance and obedience to be our primary goals when it comes to supporting our children? I’m going with a hard no on this one, and I’ll tell you why. Behaviours are external manifestations of the child’s inner experiences. To ignore the behaviour is to ignore the child’s feelings.Continue reading “Stop Recommending Behavioural Therapies”

Challenging Behaviours in Teens

Supporting older children and teens while working through challenging emotions and behaviours Adolescence can be such a difficult time — both for the teen, and for the people in their life who care about them. I also know from my professional experience that teens are sorely misunderstood, unfairly labelled, and often have an undeservedly badContinue reading “Challenging Behaviours in Teens”

Children Are Cute, But They’re Not Puppies

Nor are they pigeons, rats, or any other animal to be “trained” I have extensive training in positive reinforcement because I was a certified dog trainer for 11 years, but I will never use this approach with children. I want my son learn and practice the skills of decision-making and taking responsibility for his actions.Continue reading “Children Are Cute, But They’re Not Puppies”

Opposing Opposition

And defying defiance: My story series on O.D.D. Opposing Opposition and Defying Defiance My story series explaining the many problems with diagnosing children with Oppositional Defiance Disorder (O.D.D.). Firstly, stop calling children “defiant”. Just. Stop. Stop Calling Children “Defiant” Secondly: Yes, I’m okay with my son calling me out Also, O.D.D. Does Not Exist! O.D.D. Does Not Exist IContinue reading “Opposing Opposition”